Today I want to focus on the teachings provided by a fantastic book that I read last summer, called ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck‘ by Mark Mason. The main premise of the book focuses on the pursuit of having a good life, on finding inner happiness and debunking all the bullsh*t around it.
Technology, innovation, and progress itself have provided numerous possibilities and endless opportunities for humans to manage their life in their own way. Social media and broadcasting platforms have demolished all walls that separated individual perspectives. Nowadays, everyone is fully aware of the diversity among society. We have such a connected world that any individual is able to witness what is like to live as the great 1% in the world. From fast cars, holidays at a fancy hotel, money, to perfectly sculpted bodies and crazy parties; those are always constant reminders, mostly presented on your Instagram feed, recalling that you’re a loser and allowing you to dream big.
With this, we’ve created a society of entitled individuals who believe that the world owns them something. We’ve created selfish personas whose objective is to succeed at all costs, no matter the consequences. The fundamental principles of life, such has family, kindness and love are forgotten by most. Some become sad or even depressed, as reality hits strongly in their face. Some even become miserable, and dreamless just because they aren’t able to achieve that 1% lifestyle.
This books shares a magnificent perspective on life and its core. It was life changing for me because it allow me to be much more grateful for what I have today. Here’s some thoughts.
# 1. Don’t Give a F*ck
Conventional self-help advice usually tells you to visualize success and think about the type of person you want to be only reinforces the idea that you are not that person. We are constantly being reminded that we are not there yet, that we’re not good enough. Not caring, a.k.a, not giving a f*ck, is not about ignoring the whole world and live in a bubble where no one can hurt you. Not giving a f*ck is about caring less about materialism and other stuff than only provide momentary satisfaction. It is about accepting your experience of life as being great and wonderful. That’s the best thing you can do to achieve happiness.
# 2. You Are Not Special
The most hardening truth of them all. Nobody cares. You can have all the ambitions in the world and be the most entitled person there is, you might feel that your are owned something and that your suffering is different because you were the chosen one. In fact, your problems are not privileged in their severity or pain. You are not unique in your suffering. Most of us are pretty average at most things we do. Even if you’re exceptional at one thing, chances are you’re average or below average at most other things.
# 3. You Have the Power
You shouldn’t ask yourself what you want out of life. It’s easy to want success and fame and happiness and great sex. Everybody wants those things. A much more interesting question to ask yourself is, “What kind of pain do I want?” What you are willing to struggle for, is a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.
# 4. You Are Going to Die
At the end nothing else matters. When you’re 90, old and laying down on your dead bed, nobody will care about your cars, your mansion or the hot chick you used to date. People will praise the impact you brought on the world, they’ll remember you for your kindness, personality,beliefs and attitudes. It is the act of choosing your values and living by them that makes you great, not any outcome or accomplishment.
Hope this post has provided some valuable. So I ask you: What do you value the most?
Also, I would like to apologize. Usually I post on wednesdays, however, I got a little late on this one due to restrictive circumstances, also known as, extreme laziness and procrastination. See you next week!