“How to Win Friends And Influence People” by Dale Carnegie is a tremendous book. It provides a fantastic and credible guideline for individuals that intend to influence, inspire and even “manipulate” others. Even though I can’t consider it one of the most interesting books I’ve read, I believe that its teachings are imperative for establishing good and healthy relationships.
Today, I want to mention some of its premises that have had the most significant impact in my personal life. I consider this to be one of the most valuable books ever written, so I encourage the reader to take the time to embrace its teachings and to test them.
#1. Don’t Criticize, Condemn or Complain
This one I have completely embraced in my life. At the beginning I was a bit skeptical about it, however, all changed when I found about the great Gary Vaynerchuk, that, strongly shares that same perspective. In fact, it’s life changing when you take the approach to life with “It’s all my fault.“. I’ve grown tremendously as a person and accepted the world as it is, I’ve learned to appreciate all opinions and perspectives and to always have multiple points into consideration. I’ve learned to have my mind open and to, sincerely, try to understand other people’s points of view.
#2. Become Genuinely Interested in Other People
Everyone is different, we already know that. However, most don’t take the time to appreciate other people’s opinions and perspectives. You, as a single individual, have something that nobody else in the world has. You have your story, your experience and your thoughts, and there is always something you can teach and share with others. You will be amazed with the amount of things you can learn just by listening and appreciating other people’s standpoints.
This is the simplest it can get. Just smile. Smiling can be tremendously powerful, specially in today’s society where competition is tough and everyone is trying desperately to take care of their families and jobs. Most of the times people forget the most elementary stuff which are also the most meaningful. Try to smile, to promote positivity and kindness. People will treat you differently, I guarantee you.
#4. Remember The Name
This one is essential. Make a substantial effort to remember the name of every person you meet. I’m not saying that this will make a person instantly like you, but, it might change their perspective about you. It shows that you care, that you remember and that you’ve actually paid some attention when you met her for the first time. Believe me, this might make a huge difference when you least expect.
#5. Be a Good Listener
Everyone loves to talk about themselves, its inevitable. Nobody likes to admit it but its true. So why don’t you try to use that in your favor? If you want people to care about you, care about them first. Be a good listener and, eventually, your opportunity to share your experience and thoughts will come.
Thank you so much for reading. I appreciate your time. Also, what books have changed your life? Tell me in the comments. See you!